A stressful as divorce is on the adults who have decided they can no longer spend the rest of their life married together, it’s even harder on the kids. The younger the child, the more stressful the situation becomes. No matter how amiable a divorce might be, a formal custody arrangement will have to be worked out, and that should always be done with the help of a talented and experienced child custody attorney. The right attorney has a gift for helping reduce everyone’s stress levels.

The Bar Association maintains a list of all attorneys qualified to handle custody cases. Not only will they be able to provide you with a list of names of local lawyer you should speak to, but they might also be willing to listen to your unique situation and provide you with advice, as well as the child custody attorney they think would be the best match for your situation based on the lawyer past experiences and cases.

When it comes to your child, you want to make sure you’re working with the best, so you want to take your time and interview several different lawyers until you find the one who seems the most interested in your case, has a great deal of experience, and who also seems able to relate to your children. Keep in mind that, in this situation, the child custody attorney will really be working with your kids.

The first real contact you will have with the child custody attorney will be when you meet them for a consultation meeting. During this time you will explain the details of your situation with your estranged spouse, and also provide some insight into the lives of your children, and what you want their future to be like. You should also be prepared for the lawyer to ask you several questions as well. It’s natural for them to want to know some background about you and your spouse, a little bit of general information about your children, and will want to know why you’re getting divorced and why you want to have sole custody of your children. It’s important to make sure you answer each of these questions honestly. It’s also important to let the child custody attorney know of any plans you have which could alter the outcome of the case. For example, if you know you’re going to be accepting a job offer several hundred miles away, you need to disclose this immediately. It’s the kind of information which could really alter any final arrangements.

You can’t let your own feelings towards your estranged spouse shadow your judgment when it comes to fighting for custody of your kids. In this situation, you need to put your personal feelings aside and try to come up with the solution which will make your kids the happiest.